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Casual Friday for Home Based Businesses
My youngest grandson came to visit last week. He brought his parents and I think a good time was had by all. But that’s not the point of this story. We declared Friday as “Casual Friday,” for our home based business. As you can tell from the picture, Hawaiian shirts were normal dress.The realization that I had is that seldom do home based businesses schedule anything frivolous. Most of the people I work with are home based and they each approach their work week in a manner that will help them be effective. They generally don’t see many people unless they are going out; mode of dress is usually more about comfort and time than anything else; and you should never ask unless you are looking for TMI about their habits. The two extremes are what you would expect:
- One end is those who work in their jammies and only dress when they get ready to go out.
- The other end is those who perform their daily absolutions and dress as if they are going to an office.
Regardless of the work dress choices, seldom is anything done to break the mold. Why do you think the cubicle culture started Casual Friday? It was a chance to break out of the weekly doldrums and get one more day of productivity from the windowless workers.
Ask yourself this: Why not? You have an opportunity to:
- Allow yourself an extra big smile.
- Push your creative envelope by doing something painless AND different.
- Mention it to someone on the phone and help them smile.
- Get a picture taken with the most beautiful grandson in the country.
What are your thoughts? Maybe you don’t own a Hawaiian shirt, but I’ll bet that you can do something to break your work mold. Friday’s coming quickly. What are you going to do?
Important Nuggets from the DSWA Education Celebration
About a week ago the DSWA closed its doors on the 2008 Education Celebration. This was the first one that I have had the chance to attend and mind boggling clumps of gold could be found everywhere. Here are the ones that caught my eye:
Abundance thinking was made manifest. The common attitude was one of “ask and you shall receive.” We were all there to learn from each other.
- If you can give me an idea that makes my business better, than I can do the same for someone else.
- You can be my fresh eyes and I can be yours.
- If I can help you get better, than I get better in the process.
- There’s enough business to go around.
The direct sales profession is rife with scarcity thinking. Not that it’s deliberate. Direct sales people are highly competitive and one “edge” in the competition comes from secrecy. Information is money and if I have it and you don’t, then I win. Scarcity thinking like that was turned on its head.
Glass ceilings disappeared. I watched novices sit and raptly listen to million dollar mavens talking about the ups and downs of their life before they took control. When you hear somebody talk about how out of control they felt when they were feeding their children on gas station hotdogs, you realize how far “out of my control” can reach. You also get to experience their first steps to taking control and know that the mental step you took listening to them was the life changing one for you.
Three hours from Jack Canfield is not enough. Watching Jack Canfield in action is seeing a man living his principles. It’s easy to get caught up in positive thinking and goal visualization. While those are cornerstones to success, productive action is just as important.
Marcia Weider is America’s Dream Coach. She wears her heart where it’s seen. Always. Genuine is not and adequate word to describe her. I wanted to follow her around just to see who she would hug next.
Direct Sellers are creating community on-line. The social web for direct sellers is growing into the virtual community that it can be. Direct Selling Live is just getting off the ground as a gathering place for ideas. MLMBlackWoman.com is another. Dana and I did a training session on prospecting and lead generation and included a brief look at several of the new on-line approaches. The consistent feedback was that we needed to get into more details. There is a hunger for technical knowledge among a group of people that haven’t tapped into electronic channels.
Were you there? What was your take-away from the event?
When Eyewitnesses Agree
I read (or at least skim) through hundreds of blog posts every day. Sometimes the posts are on the same topic and it creates an interesting juxtaposition of events. Such was the case recently.
One blog I have mentioned before comes from Alexander Kjerulf, Chief Happiness Officer. He was writing about Stephen Hopson’s new blog titled, Adversity University. As a pilot and professional speaker who has been deaf since birth, Stephen’s blog about turning adversity into success makes great reading. Interestingly enough, Darren Rouse at Problogger used Hopson as an example of how to make your videos accessible to the deaf and reach out to virtually untapped market.
I am curious about how people frame the world; what words, pictures, and emotional bombs they use to make meaning out of their data stream. Once in a great while I get to triangulate on an event. With one valued source claiming “A” and another claiming “B,” I am given the opportunity to go from my point “C” and am allowed to find understanding. It’s like that fascinating game of gossip we all played as children where a story is passed from person to person and the last one tells a story that the first person can’t recognize. It’s like hearing eye witnesses to an event tell different versions of what they witness. I get curious about what causes the differences and realize just how data-rich my environment is. In this case, you would almost swear the bloggers were standing side by side. They both wanted to say the same things. I just had to go visit Adversity University and see what it was like. It’s a wonderful educational institution. Find out more about Stephen Hopson here.
What? Me Worry?
In the name of being pro-active, a lot of my coaching clients are starting to worry about the economy, unemployment, recession, etc. I want to reach through the telephone, grab them by the ears, stare into their eyes and ask the real question: “Do you know what you get when you worry about money?”
The answer is that you get what you think about—money worries. If you are thinking about money, then you are not thinking about the passion that drives you to work. You are not thinking about excellence in all things. You are not thinking about better customer service. You are thinking about squeezing one more dime out of a customer. You are thinking about selling your services so that you can line your pockets from a one-off deal.
You are thinking about the wrong things. If you think about your passion, you will be passionate. Do anything else and you make your worries come true. I read this post last December in Customers are Always called Focus, The Two P’s and How to Achieve Success. I added it to my favorites and go back and read it weekly to remind me of my own advice.
Leaders Learn
One project I have been working on lately has involved a large number of working leaders in direct sales. I’m talking about people who are the top performers in the top companies. “Humbling” is a good word to describe the experience. I find fascinating the common threads that are woven throughout their careers and are contained in the cloth that they are passing forward.
One universal is the requirement of all leaders (and aspiring leaders) to want to learn; to be open to new experiences and incorporation of new thoughts in their life and business. Hoping to someday be listed in this group, I try to read everything I can lay eyes on. I was truly excited to see a MYSTERY BOX offer from 800-CEO-READ. Three top ranked business books from 2007 can be yours for $20.00. You may not know which books they are, but they will all be good reads, and if you already own it, give it away and make a friend.
For the sceptics, there is even a Free Prize Inside. Shipping is included in your purchase price and all of the proceeds are being donated to Room to Read.
Merry Christmas
If you haven’t taken the time to slow down and enjoy the seasonal opportunities, then I hope you will click on this video and spend the next 3 minutes and 29 seconds enjoying a very Merry Christmas.
Thanksgiving Gratitude
As I sat down today to relax, I came to the realization that it had been quite some time since I have added anything to this blog. Given today’s celebration, I decided it would be a perfect opportunity to offer an explanation.Realize that this is in no way a complaint. I wouldn’t have my life any other way. I have just been too tired for the last month. After our move in September, I got very busy with work. At the present time, Team Connections is working with three different companies developing training manuals. On top of that, the past 6 weeks has been spent going through the final edits to the book that Lyn Christian and I have been writing (due out early in 2008). Frankly, by the end of the day, I had no inspiration or energy to put any more words on paper, let alone see if any of it made sense. I love it.
I am thankful for my life. I guess the best way to describe it is to say that I am grateful for the absence of needs and the presence of wants. Since leaving AdvoCare last March, we have cut our expense by more than half and still don’t really have any needs that we can’t meet. We could probably cut it even more and still not really miss anything essential in our lives. This doesn’t mean that I have stopped wanting earthly goods, luxury, or just plain “more of everything” in my life.
So what do I want? I want the challenges. I want to be tired at the end of the day because I know I will sleep well and wake up excited by the challenges of the next day. Bring it on. I just hope I’m up for it.
Real Importance
With all of the fires in southern California, I was reminded this week that we often have to decide on what’s really important. If you have to leave your house and nearly all of your belongings behind, what would you choose to take?
In a broader sense, every decision we make about job, communities, love, and life can create the same burden on our consciousness. Every choice to accept carries with it a choice to reject. And we all know it is often difficult to chose to give something up.
Interestingly enough, we only hesitate when we think about giving up the things that have good memories associated with them. Few of us think very hard about decisions to take out the garbage even though it has the memories of our past week within the bags. We seldom think about giving up abject poverty when we have a choice to do so. I was listening to a podcast with Michael Gates Hall who wrote How Starbucks Saved My Life. He learned about job satisfaction the hard way.
Parenthetically, business owners and direct sellers in particular discover this early in their professional start. The slings and arrows from disbelievers are difficult to avoid for very long.
What’s in Your Headline?
With our recent family move, one activity we are engaging in is the search for a new church to join. If they were all the same, we would look for one based on geographic proximity and be done with it. The process is, as you might expect, a little more complicated. Dana and I will visit a church for a month or so and have periodic discussion around the question of “Is my soul being fed?”. I was thinking about this during the service this past Sunday and came to a startling conclusion.
One of the pastors we were recently visiting chose to speak on a particular Biblical passage that we had recently heard elsewhere. In one instance, the church bulletin described it as “God’s Bountiful Blessings” while the other described it as “Ask for Forgiveness.” The same text can be captioned in either positive or negative terms. The headlines shift perspective on the text. In one case it is treated as a gift and in the other it is a requirement.
That led to my personal revelation. I am by no means describable as a hermeneutic scholar and I can be accused of oversimplifying. My conclusion, though, is a simple one. A combination of only three words can make a profound difference. Now I know some of you are saying, “Duh.” Others (with marketing expertise) are going, “That’s branding, Dude!” I just am amazed, not by hundreds of pages of text, but by overwhelming power of individual words. Speaking of which, I would be remiss without pointing out that the Book of John would agree.
Friday Afternoon Brass Rings
I’m not sure why it is, but every once in a while I just have to reach out and grab something that’s funny. Here’s a couple that I found today to pass on.
Twinkies, that all American food, was invented in 1930 by James Dewar. Not long before his death at the age of 88, he said that Twinkies was “the best darn-tootin’ idea I ever had.” He said that the key to his long life is to “eat Twinkies every day and smoke a pack of cigarettes.” You can read more here.
If you aren’t smiling yet, you should investigate Alexander Kjerulf, a self titled “Chief Happiness Officer” who loves his job. I was once told that a laugh a day is the key to sanity. I plan on being sane forever.
Neil:
What a fascinating, if not puzzling post you have here. First of all, thank you for “triangularing” the three of us together. I appreciate your wonderful compliments about my blog, Adversity University. I’m grateful that you find it a good source of inspiration for that is my intention and I hope I will continue to provide such information.
Can you help me understand what you were trying to postulate here?
Let me see if I understand you correctly. Tell me if I’m off the mark, okay? This makes for a fascinating case study and I’m your eager student.
You’re saying that the Chief Happiness Officer was trying to say the same thing Darren was saying in terms of making video posts more accessible? Is that accurate?
What happened was Darren gave me the opportunity to write a guest post at his blog about the subject matter so it wasn’t him who said anything about it - he just gave me space to make a case in the form of a guest post.
On the other hand, the Chief Happiness Officer merely posted a video of me talking about a most life changing moment, which was not subtitled because it came directly off YouTube. (My subtitled videos actually are made through Overstream, another site but somehow uses streaming YouTube videos - I have no idea how it works).
So help me here, my friend, what were you trying to say? I’m curious.
I look forward to hearing from you Neil.
Comment by Stephen Hopson — February 27, 2008 @ 10:22 pm
Thank you for raising the question. I’m never sure if I make sense and feedback is always helpful. You did understand my point, which is that I seldom see such agreement among people about an event and yet, when you are involved, they both see the same thing.
While the bulk of the work posted was yours, they used very similar adjectives and adverbs to describe you and your work. The Chief Happiness Officer uses “great little video” and “excellent blog.” Problogger asks for people to “help and support Stephen” and provides high accolades about your blog. They may not have said much, but they both described the same wonderful person.
By the way, I have subscribed to your blog and look forward to your posts.
Comment by Neil — February 28, 2008 @ 11:04 am
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